Saturday, 28 December 2019

At the hour of our death


At the hour of our death



Death is not only unavoidable but necessary; and how we die is, at least in part, determined by our choices, if, like me, you are faced by terminal illness, be thankful that you have not died suddenly. You may have been one of those who, in the belief that they would be spared suffering, wanted to pass away quickly and without warning. If, so you have been ignoring the effect that such an event would have had on your family, the chaos you would have certainly left behind and the burdensome and expensive work of tidying up that would have been imposed on others. You have been privileged and it is important that you should make use of this grace to set your affairs in order.
If you are, like me, a Christian, you have been given the opportunity to prepare yourself to meet your creator. Catholics have always prayed to be spared “a sudden and unprovided death”. Bear in mind that God has some purpose for you. Take full advantage of the sacraments. Establish a pattern of regular prayer, but do not give way to over-enthusiasm. It is better to begin modestly and to build further if you find it desirable.

Be glad, too, that the warning you have had will allow you to come to terms with your condition. You must try to be at peace. A good death can provide comfort to your family, but it needs a contribution from yourself as well as the assistance of medicine. This is hard advice. It is easier for old men like me to follow it than for the young, who are bound to feel unfairly treated by providence. Nevertheless, you must be reconciled to your end as far as is possible. Avoid anger or regrets. Do not despair. Enjoy the life left to you and be grateful for it.

This will prove to be easier than you expected. You will have found already that, in the moments after you heard the doctors` report, any idea of a future was driven from your mind. No other option was left to you than to live day by day. I was astonished to find how quickly l came to terms with this. I should have lived every moment as though it was my last throughout my life, but l had pursed my career on the assumption that i would survive almost forever. Now, with the evaporation of the future, the present moment became so precious that i wondered why i had left it fly by. My senses were intensified. My curiosity was sharpened. The beauty of natural objects and the vividness of my surroundings were enhanced. You will discover yourself embracing this vision, which is the one we had as children, lost with age and have now recovered. It is exhilarating and rewarding.
The annihilation of your future should not prevent you from setting yourself some short term goals. These can be related to your work, to your interests, or to the issues that you do not want to leave unsolved on death. Write your memoirs. Take up painting. You must remain active and involved as long as you can.

Do not let the acceptance of death become surrender to it. We all dread the prospect of pain. Modern medicine cannot entirely relive us of it, although my experience is that it can be made bearable and that, as so often in life, expectations are worse than reality. Of course there are cases of where death is agonising or where a neurological disorder gradually deprives a victim of all senses or where an active man or woman finds the prospect of dependence on others unbearable. One hears regularly of those for whom life has become so atrocious that they want to legitimate means to end it. Their despair and compassionate support of their careers are understandable and moving, but life is a precious gift from God and as Christians we believe that we have no right to dispose of it as we please. And whether or not we are attached to a religion, it is counter-productive for most of us to believe that we should be able to end our lives at will. There are dangers in manufacturing its closure, however attractive this may seem to be.
A feature of the condition in which we find ourselves is that we are often subjected by well-meaning relations and friends to bizarre advice and quack remedies. Do not allow yourself tempted by nostrums that never work and make our reconciliation to our illness harder by presenting us with apparently easy solutions. It is cruel to offer forlorn hope in this way. It is the best for us to follow the advice of doctors, whose treatments are at least based on science.
We are all drawn to the extraordinary at the expense of the mundane, because, although some of us abandon faith altogether, many of us at least believe that there is more life than material existence and in crises turn beyond ourselves. In the initial stages of my disease it was not my religion that comforted me; it was the recognition of my condition that heightened my attachment to my religion. In other words, that yearning for something beyond me found expression in the strengthening of my faith. In the end, of course, faith and illness become so intertwined that each becomes part of the other.

Remember that all your life has been a preparation for an event which is as significant as your birth and is far more important than any birthday. You are about to pass on to another plane and into another world. There may still be time to draw some comfort from memories of your earthly past, provided that you do not become consumed by unnecessary guilt. What happened? Long a long is over and done with, although it is good to make peace with anyone you have offended.
Treat your death as a celebration. Take an interest in it. Plan your funeral as carefully as you would the wedding of one of your children. Take care to leave your closest relations with good memories of your ending. Your fortitude will ensure that they will remember you with pride and affection, and that they will pray for you. Remember that death is not barrier to prayer.






The Challenge of Marriage life



The Challenge of Marriage life


Amidst change of every kind, while being impacted by force at work for which we have little or no control, and juggling more responsibilities in our daily lives than ever before, we are challenged to foster a healthy and nurturing family life. We can choose values, behaviors and activities that will contribute to the overall health, well-being and happiness of our family. It can be done.

“Life is difficult”, we can add that life comes with no guarantees. This is not to take the joy or the hope, out of life, but rather to recognize the reality that, to varying degrees, life will have its challenges and hurdles as well as its pains and struggles. Spiritual writers, past and present reminds us often that there is no growth without struggle or sacrifice. So, too the relationship we call marriage and the set of relationships that form a family will have their moments of difficulty, challenge, struggle, hurts, pains, misunderstandings and problems. From all of them we can grow as persons and in our relationships.

A relationship can only be as strong and as healthy as the individuals within it. If one of the persons entering the relationship of marriage is “broken”, is incomplete in some way, brings a significant amount of unfinished work from childhood or adolescence into the relationship or has major physical, emotional and psychological problems, the relationship will begin with huge challenges and problems. If both persons entering the relationship bring major issues, the problems and hurts into the relationship, the impact on the relationship more than doubles its  problems and  challenges because an addition to the two “handicapped” individuals, the “we” or “us” relationship-  the new reality created by marriage- will present its own challenges and  problems. Before entering marriage, people need to know themselves and to have dealt with their principal, substantive and predominant problems and issues. Ideally, people entering marriage will have achieved the developmental goals appropriate top their age.
Subsequently, relationships in a family can only be as strong, nurturing and life-giving as the individuals in it. Of course, the physical, emotional, social and spiritual health parents have the greatest impact on the strength and vitality of the overall health and well-being of the family.
Building healthy and nurturing relationships in a family presumes that parents have achieved the level of maturity and acquired a set of skills for dealing with one`s problems and challenges. In addition, parents should have made a firm commitment to working on their relationship as husband and wife as well as ion their family life, with its unique set of relationships. This requires a willingness to make a family life a priority and to make the decisions and sacrifices necessary to keep family life a priority. It is not easy. It is possible.

The relation of husband and wife establishes the marriage it`s the primary and foundational relationship upon which the family is built. The work of marriage continues even after children are born. In this regard, it is critical that the husband and wife never forget that this primary relationship will take work and must be actively and intentionally nourished throughout the relationship. When a couple forgets, or fails to tend to their marriage at any time in its life, but especially when children become part of their relationship, they will find that slowly and almost without notice, they will grow.

If the husbands and wives do not grow together, share in and contribute to each other`s growth throughout the relationship, the relationship is doomed. The greatest gift a mother can give her child is to love the child`s father, her husband; the greatest gift a father can give his child is to love the child`s mother, his wife. Their love created the child, their love provides the soil and environment in which their child will grow into adulthood.
The birth of children creates a nuclear family. Children depend on their parents for care, support, comfort, nurturing, discipline, affection, and love. Parents are not only the first teachers of their children, they are their child`s first role models of good relationships. Their relationship becomes a paradigm experienced and observed by their child (children) that will be initiated, adapted and formative of their child`s views about marriage, about the relationship between husband and wife, about what it means to be mother or father.

Love is a decision. Love does not just happen; it takes hard work. Equally, creating a healthy, nurturing and life-giving faily relationship takes hard work. In fact, husbands and wives, most of whom become mothers and fathers, make love a reality in their commitment to working on their relationship as husband and wife and as mothers and fathers. Love takes on fresh in living it.

A healthy family is one in which each member of the family is valued and respected; one in which each member of the family feels safe and se cure; one in which each member of the family is supported, comforted encouraged, guided and challenged to grow.

A healthy family provides an environment and resources for each member of the family to fulfill developmental tasks appropriate to each family member`s age to achieve an appropriate level of maturity and to reach his or her maximum potential.



Friday, 27 December 2019

sé feliz SIEMPRE porque vivir es un regalo.


27th de, 2019
sé feliz SIEMPRE porque vivir es un regalo. Un regalo merece ser admirado, apreciado, amado y mostrado a los demás. La vocación a la vida es una buena noticia tanto para ti como para las personas con las que vives. Las buenas noticias deben ser compartidas con otros. Por lo tanto, debe haber gozo alegre al respecto. Ser vivo por solo un día ya es una gran gracia. Cuente los años que ha pasado, cinco años, diez años, veinte años, luego cuarenta años, cincuenta años, etc. merece ser marcado por reflexiones, acción de gracias, mirando hacia atrás y hacia adelante, con alegrías y oraciones compartidas.

Deseo comenzar esta carta agradeciendo a Dios por su fidelidad, su cercanía y su gran amor y deseo reconocer que es Él quien nos guía en esta hermosa experiencia de vivir nuestra vida. También deseo aprovechar esta oportunidad para expresar mi gratitud a Dios y a ustedes, mi amada madre, que han hecho posible este período que me han confiado. El señor ha hecho maravillas en mí, y durante este período, puedo decir con toda humildad que ha sido una experiencia alegre, entusiasta y generosa en muchos sentidos.

Al encontrarme a finales de año, siento la necesidad de compartir contigo un mensaje de comunión y esperanza. Has estado muy presente en mi mente (reflexiones y meditaciones) sin darte cuenta; Gracias por sus oraciones y, sobre todo, por su testimonio de servicio y dedicación. Reconozco la sincera gratitud por el trabajo realizado en mi vocación; Sus propuestas, sugerencias, reflexiones y oraciones me han ayudado mucho en mi discernimiento. Es difícil expresar con palabras el amor que tengo por ti. Ciertamente ha sido un amor de fraternidad y una pasión compartida por Dios y por ti.
Por la gracia especial de Dios, fuiste predestinada desde toda la eternidad no solo a la fe y a la santidad sino también a la misión, "en él también fueron elegidos destinados de acuerdo con la intención de su voluntad, para que podamos existimos para la alabanza de su gloria, los que primero esperamos en Cristo”, (Efesios 1: 11-12). Por la misma gracia de Dios, y al mismo tiempo, fuiste llamado por él a la gracia de la fe y a la misión. Esta gracia es maravillosa tanto en sí misma como por el hecho de que él te llamó, aún te sostiene.

Necesitas sobresalir en tu fe. Tal es la naturaleza de la fe que cuanto más se reprime, más se enciende. La virtud de la fe es más segura en medio del peligro; inatacable, está en peligro. De hecho, ¿qué debilita el vigor de la fe más que la inactividad prolongada? La fe es una lámpara; como una lámpara ilumina el hogar, así la fe ilumina el alma. La fe es la luz del alma, la puerta de la vida, el fundamento de la salvación eterna. Dejas que tu fe vea y sea vista, por así decirlo, en sus operaciones y efectos. Por tus actos heroicos se manifestará a la gente por esta noble y gran fe tuya. La fe muere cuando hay un corte de caridad. Deja que el amor avive tu fe; deja que tus hechos lo prueben. La fe cristiana es como una semilla de mostaza, parece a primera vista estar demostrando su verdadero poder, cuando, sin embargo, diferentes tentaciones han comenzado a atacarla, luego manifiesta su vigor y exteriormente.

Deje que la fe y el miedo del señor lo dispongan a encontrarse con todo. Pase lo que pase, la pérdida de aquellos que son cercanos y queridos para ti, los desafíos y los desalientos de la familia, la separación de amigos y familiares, la falta de dinero, etc. persevere, tales desgracias no deben disminuir o destruir su fe, sino que deben hacer que esta virtud se levante con renovado vigor en el conflicto. Debes ignorar los males presentes; aferrarse a la esperanza en la recompensa celestial. Donde no hay conflicto, no puede haber victoria. Cuando se haya librado la batalla y se haya ganado la victoria, la recompensa se otorgará al vencedor.

Dios quiso que nos regocijemos y nos deleitemos en las persecuciones, porque cuando hay persecuciones, los fieles son recompensados. La fuerza de la virtud de la fe consiste en creer y reconocer que Dios puede protegernos de la muerte presente y, al mismo tiempo, no temer a la muerte o ceder, de modo que la fe se demostrará aún más vigorosa. La virilidad de la fe debe mantenerse firmemente dentro de ti. Después de un ataque violento, la virtud debe mantenerse firme como una enorme roca de tremenda resistencia.

Debes creer firmemente y tener esperanza contra la esperanza cada vez que emprendas algo que esté más allá de los poderes humanos y con oraciones y la ayuda de Dios, lo llevarás con éxito a su realización. Con esperanza, no solo superas todas las dificultades, sino también las cosas naturalmente imposibles. Fortificado con esperanza, serás alegre en la persecución, "no solo eso, sino que incluso te jactarás de tus aflicciones, sabiendo que las aflicciones producen resistencia, y resistencia demostrada y esperanza demostrada, y la esperanza no decepciona ...", (Rom 5: 3-5). En cada aflicción, debes confiar en Dios no solo para ti sino también para tu hermana; y con esta esperanza Obtendrás ayuda, fortaleza y éxito de Dios. “Si estamos afligidos, es para su aliento y salivación; Si nos animan, es para alentarlo, lo que le permite soportar los mismos sufrimientos que nosotros. Nuestra esperanza para ti es firme, porque sabemos que, al compartir los sufrimientos, también compartes el aliento”, (2Cor.1: 6-7).

La esperanza comprobada es segura y firme como ancla del alma (Heb 6: 19; 10:23, 35). Mucho al punto es la palabra del salmista, "muchas son las penas de los impíos, pero el amor rodea a los que confían en el Señor", Salmo 32:10, y San Agustín escribió: "verdaderamente mortal es la vida; inmortal es la esperanza de vida ", agregó San Bernardo," si las guerras se levantaran contra mí, si el mundo se enfureciera, si el malvado echara humo, si mi fresco se rebelara contra mi espíritu, todavía esperaría en Ti ".

Fortificada con esta esperanza, querida, desafiarás con valentía todos los peligros de tu vida. En virtud de esta gran esperanza, superarás todos tus propios peligros y los de tus compañeros. No tengas miedo, mi amado, con una esperanza inquebrantable, reclamarás para ti la gloria de una corona celestial, “por eso estoy sufriendo estas cosas; pero no me avergüenzo, porque sé en quién creía y estoy seguro de que él puede proteger lo que me han confiado hasta ese día "(2Tim 1:12). Y, “he competido bien; He terminado la carrera; He mantenido la fe. De ahora en adelante me espera la corona de los justos, que el señor, el juez me otorgará ese día” (2Tim 4: 7-8).

En todo lo que hagas, sométete a la voluntad divina y cumple con ella. "No te confirmes a ti mismo a esta edad, sino sé transformado por la renovación de tu mente, para que puedas discernir cuál es la voluntad de Dios, qué es bueno, agradable y perfecto" (Rom 12: 2). Nunca permita que nada, ni amor ni odio, ni adulación ni amenaza, lo desvíen de lo que es correcto y justo. En todas partes, sea sincero, justo, recto, constante y firme y tranquilo enraizado en Dios, por lo tanto, sobre todo, las circunstancias terrenales sean prósperas o de otra manera.

Siempre debes dar gracias a Dios en todas las cosas, tanto en la prosperidad como en la adversidad, "y todo lo que hagas, de palabra o, de hecho, haz todo en el nombre del Señor Jesús, dando gracias al padre a través de él" (Col 3: 7). Alabado sea la Divina Providencia y declare con el salmista: "Bendeciré al Señor en todo momento". San Jerónimo, "si estoy bien", dijo, "le agradeceré a Dios; Si estoy enfermo, glorificaré la voluntad de Dios. Cuando estoy enfermo, me vuelvo más fuerte; y el poder del espíritu se fortalece en la aflicción de lo fresco”.

Hay tres etapas de paciencia. El primero es sufrir pacientemente, el segundo es sufrir voluntariamente; y el tercero es sufrir con alegría, gloriarse en el sufrimiento y anhelar la angustia y la persecución, debes aprender de esto. Considéralo todo alegría, cuando te encuentres con varios caminos, debes saber que la prueba de tu fe produce perseverancia. Y deja que la perseverancia sea perfecta, para que puedas ser perfecto y completo sin nada. “Pero regocíjate en la medida en que compartas los sufrimientos de Cristo, de modo que cuando se revele su gloria, también puedas regocijarte exultantemente” (1 Pedro 4:13). Con admirable paciencia, aguantarás a todos los rivales, envidiosos, destructores y calumniadores ". De hecho, continuarás regocijándote.

“Estamos afligidos en todos los sentidos, pero no limitados; perplejo, pero no desesperado; perseguido, pero no abandonado; pegado, pero no destruido” (2Cor 4: 8-9). San Gregorio escribió con razón "la paciencia es el martirio escondido en el alma". Mi querida; Además de su continuo sufrimiento y las serias tentaciones de los frescos, manténganse firmes para superar muchas enfermedades del cuerpo y ansiedades del alma. La gracia de Dios es suficiente para ti, porque el poder se perfecciona en la debilidad.

Además, sirve a tus hermanos y hermanas, baña los pies de tus invitados, guarda silencio si alguien te ha ofendido. Siempre que sea posible, prefiere permanecer en silencio, porque a veces el silencio es más seguro que cualquier otra cosa, y lo considera algo bueno para ti y para los demás. Deseas guardar silencio y hablar solo por razones. Los arrogantes, en cambio, no hablan solo cuando hay una razón; salen a buscar excusas para hablar. Esto se debe a que la humildad, más allá de cualquier duda, es la verdadera grandeza del alma. Donde por uno mantiene oculta su grandeza y así imita la palabra encarnada, que lo ocultó al asumir la naturaleza humana.

También, debes imitar a Cristo en la observancia de la pobreza. "Pobres sobre la tierra, ricos en el cielo". Tendrás que soportar el hambre, la sed, la desnudez y las dificultades. Como San Pablo les escribe a los filipenses: “Sé cómo vivir en circunstancias humildes y en todo lo que he aprendido el secreto de estar bien alimentado y pasar hambre, de vivir en abundancia (he sido educado en todos los lugares y en todos los lugares y de estar en necesidad. Tengo la fuerza para todo a través de aquel que me da poder” (Filipenses 4: 12-13). sé una mujer que se ve / se verá obligada con frecuencia a combatir el hambre, a retirarse sin cenar y a estar sin ropa. A menudo, le faltarán los elementos esenciales básicos en la frialdad y en la desnudez, pero el coraje.

Sin embargo, deja que tus ojos, boca, obras y gestos, acciones, movimientos e incluso vestidos, reflejen la calma interior, la devoción y la santidad y la vida celestial. "Busca lo que está arriba ... Piensa en lo que está arriba, no en lo que está en la tierra", (Col 3: 1-2). Aunque tus cuerpos estén abajo, deja que tu corazón se eleve arriba. Mi deseo es sobresalir en todo y ser perfecto en todo lo que haces. "No te relajes, celo, sé ferviente en espíritu, te digo que ames a tus enemigos y a los que te persiguen de todos modos: si tu enemigo tiene hambre, aliméntalo; si tiene sed, dale algo de beber; porque al hacerlo, acumularás carbones encendidos sobre su cabeza, no te dejes vencer por el mal, sino vence al mal con el bien” (Rom 12, 20-21). Cristo mismo dijo: “Has oído que se dijo que amarás a tu prójimo y odiarás a tu enemigo. Pero te digo, ama a tus enemigos y reza por los que te persiguen, para que puedas ser hijos de tu padre celestial, porque él hace que su sol salga sobre lo malo y lo bueno, hace que llueva sobre los justos y los injustos. ", (Mt 5: 43-45).

Por mi parte, creo que permanecemos en la presencia de Dios mientras dormimos, porque nos quedamos dormidos a su vista, como él quiere, y según su voluntad, y nos acuesta en nuestras camas; cuando nos despertamos, lo encontramos todavía cerca. Él no se ha movido, ni nosotros tampoco; evidentemente, nos hemos quedado en su presencia, pero con los ojos cerrados mientras dormimos. Ten paz, querida hermana, y camina fielmente por el camino que te ha marcado. Cuídate de llevar contento a quien Dios te ha abrazado. Esto se debe a que la oración es el medio más seguro e infalible para tener éxito en hacer las obras de Dios, incluso cuando están en su momento más difícil y desafiante. Te pido que reces siempre.

De todo corazón, gracias por un beneficio, querida, me has acompañado en esta experiencia y servicio al hacer esto posible. Deseo pedirte mis fallas y los límites que sin duda he mostrado. Veo que me recuerdas con cariño. Si te dijera que pasa una hora sin mi cariño, te estaría diciendo una gran mentira. Siempre te llevo en mi corazón, te recuerdo. A veces, sin darme cuenta, encuentro consuelo real y dulce consuelo al recordarte a Dios en el Santo Sacrificio de la Misa, algo que hago todas las mañanas.

Yo sé de esos días tristes donde parece que la fuerza y la luz se extinguen por completo. Esos días en los que las lágrimas llegan y la soledad persigue. En los que parece que todo está perdido, que no hay salidas, que no hay caminos.
Sin embargo, al igual que yo, tú sabes que no hay días que duren para siempre. El tiempo no se detiene, somos nosotros quienes por desesperación, miedo o necedad nos detenemos en él. Sigue caminando, sigue luchando, retoma los senderos. No te detengas por sin-sabores y sin-remedios. Continúa, que tantas experiencias radiantes están esperando por ti.

Cuando la angustia llegue, cuando la depresión acose, míralas, pero no las abraces, contémplalas, pero no las invites. Tu posees el poder para llorar y para reír. Elige reír. Elige los días alegres.
Es real, es cierto que hay momentos de llanto y de soles negros y de lunas rotas, pero son solo eso: MOMENTOS, no los conviertas en días, en semanas, en meses.

Si te sientes sola, sal y busca gente, ábrete a la energía positiva de los otros. Llama a algún pariente o amigo. Concéntrate en actividades productivas. Cuenta tus bendiciones, todo lo que posees, todos los que te quieren, reconoce lo que a tu alrededor se abre con brillo y con vida.

Si alguien te dio la espalda, si alguien lastimó tu corazón, si alguien te dejo para siempre, por supuesto que vas a estar triste y vas a sufrir, pero no hagas tu dolor eterno, ponle un final a la angustia y decide que hasta aquí llegó, porque de ahí en adelante vas a sonreír, vas a sacudirte las malas energías, vas a buscar la luz, la alegría, el entusiasmo y todas las posibles razones para ser feliz.
En la vida siempre vas a tener buenas y malas experiencias, buenas y malas compañías, buenos y malos consejos, pero depende de ti prestar atención y enfocarte en lo positivo, lo bello, lo útil. No permitas que una mala mirada, una mala palabra, una mala acción te quiten EL GOZO DE EXISTIR.

Espero que esta palabra de motivación llegue a tus manos, que visite tu existencia y puedas entender con tranquilidad y fortaleza que hay cosas en la vida que te ofrecerán dicha sana y otras que te ofrecerán dolor y caos, pero que depende de ti tener la sabiduría necesaria para abrir la puerta solo a aquellas que van a colaborar a tu bienestar espiritual, físico y mental.
Confiemos en el señor para que tengamos éxito en todo lo que hacemos. Dios está con nosotros; La Inmaculada Virgen María está con nosotros. Confiando en su fuerza invencible podremos vencer la incomprensión de todo lo que nos encontramos. Respaldados por el precioso apoyo de Dios, la Virgen María, estamos más seguros.


Te deseo y a todos los miembros de su familia un nuevo año 2020 lleno de iniciativas que los motiven a colaborar con el plan que Dios lleva a cabo a través de ustedes.
Robert Nsinga



The Importance of the Holy Spirit


The Importance of the Holy Spirit
What a tragedy, that so many Christians know very little about the Holy Spirit or hardly pay attention to Who He is and what His place is in the lives of God's people. Some refer to Him as the "Third Person" of the Trinity, as though He is the lesser of the Three.
The Holy Spirit is One of the Three Persons of the Godhead, a compound Unity in the Trinity of God.
1.      God the Father is the Source of life and of all that has been divinely planned and created.
2.      He is the Originator of our salvation and our future. He is the Heavenly Administrator.
3.      God the Son is the Divine Alphabet–the "Alpha and Omega" Rev. 1:11), the "Word" Jn. 1:1
4.      He reveals what the Father determines and makes the Father's will clear. He is the exact expression of the Father Jn. 14:9.
5.      God the Holy Spirit is the Energizer of the Word spoken by the Son. He is the Executor, the One Who brings God's plan to reality and fulfilment. The Holy Spirit was and is present at every Divine function.
The Holy Spirit is needed in ALL of our human experience.
1.      Throughout the LIFE of the Christian. The Spirit breathes life and energy into us, even as He did to the lifeless form of Adam. Gen. 2:7. It is the Holy Spirit who imparts life to us and makes us "new creatures in Christ".
2.      In the GROWTH of the Christian; The believer must not remain a spiritual infant, "Grow in grace” The Spirit will lead us to spiritual maturity so that our life becomes an asset to the Kingdom of God.

3.      In the WORK of the Christian; Christians have an obligation and responsibility to God. "Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness" Mt. 6:33. We are to be "workers together" with Him in behalf of the Kingdom. Jesus told His disciples "Go", "Be My witnesses." Our efforts apart from the power and anointing of the Holy Spirit are fruitless. Our education and varied programs, etc., may entertain and attract, but will not produce eternal results. The Spirit energizes us. He grants spiritual “gifts” abilities. He gives revelations, produces “fruit” - character such as love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith Gal. 5:22.

4.      In the BATTLE of the Christian. Paul reminds us that “We wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places” Eph. 6:12
The enemy is not your normal human foe. The Bible characterizes him as "a roaring lion," "the serpent," "the dragon," " thief," " murderer." We are no match for him. Even Michael the archangel was careful when "contending with the devil...about the body of Moses" did not dare to bring a slanderous accusation against him, but said, "the Lord rebuke you.

5.      But we are encouraged to resist and rebuke the devil. HOW? "By My Spirit, saith the Lord." Samson was a ordinary mortal, but what a powerhouse he became when "The Spirit of the Lord came upon him" (Judges 14:6). The same was true of the Lord's Apostles after the Day of Pentecost. The Spirit gives us faith, wisdom, courage, strength. "My brethren, be strong in the Lord , and in the power of His might" (Eph. 6:10). "Put on the whole armor of God" (Eph.6:11-18). This comes from the Holy Spirit. Victory is assured when the Holy Spirit is involved in our life.
6.      Conclusion
   We will need Him our entire life; for our spiritual growth, for our successful work, for victorious warfare against the enemy, and for a glorious completion of our responsibilities to God.

WHAT IS TIME ITS A PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY




WHAT IS TIME 
ITS A PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY


                                                                            HOW TO USE OUR TIME,

Each day is another gift and another chance to make a difference. Each day we live reduces the amount of time we have left in the world. None of us knows just how much is left. It could be just a few minutes to heart attack. It could be 2 hours to a car accident. It could be one mouth to a fatal sickness. It could be 40 days to the end of the world. Therefore it is important to use the time we have in the best way possible. To do so, we must first have clear goals in life. What is it that we are after? Where are we taking our life? What do I want to be and achieve today.
We should avoid leaning things half finished because we may never get to finish them. We should choose carefully what we do for we do not have time to do everything and anything. We should make the best use of each encounter because it may be the last. It may be the last chance to smile at the patent in the hospital bed. He may be dead tomorrow. It may be the last chance to show an act of kindness to a blind cripple you may never meet him again. It may the last chance you have to show care to the passenger seated next to you for he may be on his way to committing suicide. It may be the last time you greet you friend on the road. It may be the last time you are visiting a relative. It may be the last opportunity to tell the person who she meant to you. It may be the last chance to ask forgiveness. Do not let the sun set while you are still angry because there may be no tomorrow.
Of course eating is important but did you pause to calculate how much time we spend eating, breakfast might last about 30 minutes. Lunch will definitely last longer, say 45 minutes. We may have 15 minutes for afternoon tea and another 45 minutes for supper. That is 2 hours each day. We spend 2 full hours daily doing nothing but just eating. (2 ×366= 732) in one year we spend 732 hours eating 30.5 days eating , in 80 years we will have been eating for 2440 days or 6.5 years eating nonstop. During this time we are very attentive and have great time. No one is usually dozing. If we spend time preparing the food and washing up dishes it more than doubles the time we spend on food.
We are told that it is important to sleep in order to be healthy. 8 hours of sleep is one of third of the day. In 80 years we will have spent 26.5 years sleeping.
For religious people are required to have at least one hour of personal prayer each day. Many are too busy to do so. For those who do, the one hour is reduced. They spend about 10 minutes preparing to get into the mood of prayer. During prayer itself, distractions may take another 20 minutes, dozing may also grab another 10 minutes. In the end they have just 20 minutes spend in real prayer.
We spend 20 minutes of our day doing the most important single activity in our life, an activity that we all agree in non− negotiable. Yet we spend 6 times as much time daily in eating. We spend 24 times as much as sleeping. The rest of the day is filled with other activities, shopping, socializing, and internet. Whatever those activities are at the end of the day we spend 72 times more than time in other activities than we do in real prayer. It makes you wonder if what we call priority is in reality a priority. Perhaps we can see it by the fruits.






THE IMPACT OF ECONOMY ON THE COUPLE


THE IMPACT OF ECONOMY ON THE COUPLE.

Who Pays Decide? Giving an example of pygmies, salt was the measure of value. In the case of some villages, the flocks of animals were the primary value. As a society we have evolved from barter to the economy that rules the world today. However, the central theme of this text is the impact of this economy on the couple.

Why is it controversial to talk about money in the couple? There are several answers to this: The reference to "personal interests" over those of the couple. Contradiction in the concept of a couple as the fusion of two people into one being. What is the couple:  for example, a union of two halves of oranges that form a perfect or the union of two individual oranges that try to get the best possible juice. Speaking of money is also talking about power. In couples there are always power struggles. Generally the man exerts the power through the money and the woman through the affection or sexuality. When the roles of the spouses become rigid enabling one to exercise more power at the expense of the other, the relationship becomes one of winning or losing. The relationship requires a new definition to balance power.

Some power games. These games occur under various circumstances. For example, when one of the spouses believes that they have real power over the other. Also common is the case of the one who doubts the abilities or the intentions of the spouse. In some polarized situations, the husband assumes that the role of the woman is worthless and says it openly generating depressions. Consider the following power games: Children: "You would not understand" Martyrs of money: In the ladies, it is given as a postponement of one's needs in favor of those of the family. In the case of husbands, "work for the family" is given. Neither of the two is sincere in its entirety. Unilateral decisions: How do you think about buying a new car? Rebels of money: "I'll pay when I feel like it" Benevolent manipulators: "Sweetheart, have I ever let you down?" Frighteners: "Remember that I can leave you on the street" From this, it can be deduced that the love relationship is necessary but it is not enough to maintain the marriage.
Influences of personal history. At an immediate level, we can consider the influences of adult life, which include the cultural, political, religious and advertising impact. We want to be different through having more and therefore pretending becomes important. A little deeper is the footprint left on us by the way our parents dealt with matters of money. Sometimes parents argue in an annoyed way and the children are left with the idea that there really is no money when the discussion is really about its use.
Sociocultural influences regarding the division of roles and money. Today, the division of roles between men and women is no longer as clear as it was a few years ago. In this new context, most men still feel that they are the providers of the house even if their ladies work. Although,  men have yielded the role of providers, they have not taken the role of educators forcing women to carry a double burden: provide and educate. Thus is born the "super woman" that we can see today exhausted, confusing her state with a depression. It is curious to note that in many cases the woman retains some features of the old role division by applying the saying "What is mine is mine and what is yours too".

Communication between man and woman: different interpretations. Communication is learned at an early age. Girls are advised to communicate verbally, sharing secrets, confidences. Children, on the other hand, relate by doing things together. Thus, women expect their husbands to express themselves in words as their best friend and they expect their actions to speak for themselves. This is how men express their anger through anger and women through tears. The man gives logical answers when the woman expects emotional responses. When a conversation develops, if the man jokes, the woman interprets that the problem does not interest him. If the man reinterprets, she believes that he does not trust his point of view. If the man advises, she feels that the man treats her with superiority. If the woman confides, he asks to get to the point as it is being overloaded with unnecessary information. If he expresses emotions, he thinks he is making a storm in a glass of water. If she confronts him, he feels scolded.

Finally, in this way it  would be good to identify precisely where they differ, discover the problems in their cultural, social and family heritages. Understand, converse and share where each one is in their spending can generate harmony, freedom and development.  



Robert Nsinga

The Motivational Words.


I know of those sad days where it seems that force and light are completely extinguished. Those days when tears come and loneliness pursues. In which it seems that everything is lost, that there are no exits, that there are no roads.

However, like me, you know that there are no days that last forever. Time does not stop, it is we who, out of despair, fear or foolishness, stop at it. Keep walking, keep fighting, go back to the trails. Do not stop for flavours’ and remedies. Continue, that so many radiant experiences are waiting for you.

When the anguish arrives, when the depression stalks, look at them, but don't hug them, contemplate them, but don't invite them. You have the power to cry and laugh. Choose to laugh Choose the happy days.

It is real, it is true that there are moments of crying and black suns and broken moons, but they are just that: MOMENTS, do not turn them into days, weeks, months.

If you feel alone, go out and look for people, open yourself to the positive energy of others. Call a relative or friend. Focus on productive activities. Count your blessings, everything you own, everyone who loves you, recognize what is around you with brightness and life.

If someone turned their backs on you, if someone hurt your heart, if someone left you forever, of course you're going to be sad and you're going to suffer, but don't do your eternal pain, put an end to the anguish and decide that here It came, because from then on you will smile, you will shake off the bad energies, you will look for light, joy, enthusiasm and all possible reasons to be happy.

Friend, in life you will always have good and bad experiences, good and bad companies, good and bad advice, but it is up to you to pay attention and focus on the positive, the beautiful, the useful. Do not let a bad look, a bad word, a bad action takes away THE JOY OF EXISTING.

I hope that this word of motivation comes to your hands, that you visit your existence and can understand with tranquillity and strength that there are things in life that will offer you healthy bliss and others that will offer you pain and chaos, but that it is up to you to have the wisdom necessary to open the door only to those who will contribute to your spiritual, physical and mental well-being.

Robert., NSINGA

 


La Navidad es una semilla de esperanza


La Navidad es una semilla de esperanza porque Dios entra en nuestra historia para transformarla y recrearla en una nueva dirección. Esto se entiende mejor por las víctimas, los pobres, los sin tierra y los sin hogar. Estás llamado a hacer un proyecto de vida de amor y causa común con lo menos; toda tu vida debe ser compasiva y misericordiosa

Queridos,
Me doy cuenta de que mantenerme en contacto regularmente con todos los amigos y familiares no es fácil y, por lo tanto, recurro al buen hábito, consolidado de estar lejos de casa durante muchos años, para escribirle al menos en Navidad.
Al reflexionar sobre el misterio de la Navidad de Jesús, este año me llamó la atención la frase del evangelista Lucas que dice que María puso al niño Jesús "en un pesebre porque no había lugar para ellos en la posada". La razón de este nacimiento, que es humanamente miserable, es plausible, ¡la familia de Nazaret era pobre y no podía pagar la posada! Entonces me pregunté si Jesús nacería hoy, en nuestra opulenta sociedad, ¿dónde se vería obligado a nacer? Como hay menos establos y, en cualquier caso, no es tan pobre como el de Belén, Jesús probablemente nacería hoy en los lugares frecuentados por los pobres y las personas sin hogar: lugares improvisados, insalubres, tal vez abusivos ... donde los seres humanos no deberían vivir. pero animales en Belén. ¿Quién podría considerar a un niño nacido en tales condiciones? ¿Quién podría reconocer en él al Mesías, el Hijo de Dios? Te dejo la respuesta.
Pero no es del lugar físico donde Jesús pudo nacer hoy que quiero hablar contigo sino del espiritual que es nuestra vida diaria. Hoy, desafortunadamente, muchas personas excluyen a Jesús de su horizonte, ¡no hay lugar para él! Su presencia no es bienvenida porque, así como los pobres molestan a los ricos, así el Hijo de Dios molesta a los que solo se preocupan por la cuenta bancaria, los que pisotean los derechos de los pobres, los que no miran a la cara y niegan su "posada" para aquellos que no pueden pagar, aquellos que piensan solo en sí mismos o en la mayoría de las personas cercanas a ellos. ¡Cuántas personas incluso hoy como en los días de Jesús encuentran cerradas las puertas de nuestras posadas! En nuestra sociedad, la presencia de Jesús, en los pobres, ya no es bienvenida porque cada vez hay menos espacio para los valores que Él representa: fe, gratuidad, honestidad, justicia, solidaridad, humildad, sobriedad, respeto por lo diferente. ¡para la creación! Todo está más monetizado que nunca, incluso nuestro tiempo, para convertirnos en esclavos, movidos como estamos por un frenesí que nos corroe desde el interior y no deja espacio para la interioridad, la reflexión, el disfrute del momento presente, en un saludable descanso del día a día. trabaja para dar tiempo, por ejemplo, a relaciones significativas y gratuitas, al compromiso con el bien común, etc. Y luego nos quejamos de que la gente desconfía, teme, deprime, que las familias se separan, que nuestro complejo no es seguro, que nuestra sociedad y nuestro mundo está muy dividido. ¡La razón es obvia, aunque podríamos asistir a la iglesia en nuestra vida real, a menudo dejamos de lado a Dios! Dios es lo opuesto a nosotros y es por eso que en Jesús quería nacer pobre, humilde, misericordioso, justo, verdadero, capaz de dar su vida por amor. Esta es la lección que deseaba darnos a partir del nacimiento de su hijo Jesús.
Entonces, si queremos vivir una Navidad diferente y auténtica, debemos tratar de ser menos superficiales, más sobrios, más abiertos a aquellos que sufren o están en necesidad, más capaces de tener relaciones verdaderas y no solo virtuales, más justos y capaces de construir comunión y No división. Simplemente tratemos de seguir más consistentemente a ese Cristo del cual la gran mayoría de nosotros llevamos el nombre. ¡Entonces Él, que en Belén encontró un lugar solo en un establo, finalmente pudo nacer en la "posada" de nuestra vida y hacer que nuestra NAVIDAD sea realmente FELIZ!
Confiemos en el señor para que tengamos éxito en todo lo que hacemos. Dios está con nosotros; La Inmaculada Virgen María está con nosotros. Confiando en su fuerza invencible podremos vencer la incomprensión de todo lo que nos encontramos. Respaldados por el precioso apoyo de Dios, la Virgen María, estamos más seguros.
Por último, me uno a ustedes en agradecimiento por los dones de gracia y luz que el Señor gentilmente quiere enriquecernos, especialmente al finalizar este año. Que siempre nos inspire el amor misericordioso del padre.
Les deseo a usted y a todos los miembros de su familia una Navidad llena de bendiciones y un nuevo año 2020 lleno de iniciativas que los motiven a colaborar con el plan que Dios lleva a cabo a través de ustedes.



Robert Nsinga



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